Perfectly Imperfect Self

Many people think they need to be different before their lives can shift. Of course I disagree.  I tell clients to take their perfectly imperfect self and show up.  Why do this?  You create self acceptance by showing up in your life just as you are right now.  You don't have to be totally confident, fearless, or clear to show up in your life. You don't have to be different to show up now and move towards your goals.  Life can be unclear and you can still take action just by showing up in your own life.  This means you can show up:

overweight

ashamed

tired

messed up

unprepared

afraid

with a open mind

happy

with love

with wrinkles on your face

preoccupied

with opinions

with anger

in the outfit that's not your favorite

without your lipstick on

with your hair pulled back

with your workout cloths on

confused

curious

Showing up for yourself just the way you are helps you relax into your own skin and get comfortable.  Are you going to wait to love yourself until your at the perfect weight or have the perfect partner?  Loving yourself just as you are leads you to where you want to end up.  Self acceptance of the perfectly imperfect self is expansive and provides synergy towards your goals.  Self acceptance is embracing yourself just as you are now.  

Take your perfectly imperfect self and take action towards your goals, show up at the gym, in the conversation, in class, in your career, in your relationships, in your bank account, tell someone you goofed up or that you did something brilliant. Many people don't talk about themselves because they don't feel worthy or they feel ashamed.   Take whatever your hiding and let it be known.  When you reveal yourself you create a flow inside your being, you free yourself of your own shackles and you start to accept yourself in the present moment.  So, if your overweight and your resisting going for a walk outside or to the gym because your not different yet, just show up and let it be known.  In the midst of showing up your create change. What you get in return is movement forward. Showing up blows hiding out away!

Were here to live, explore, learn, and feel joy.  So why deny yourself and keep hiding out? The only result you get from not showing up is denying the self of what it truly desires.  Showing up can feel awkward and kinda frightening, but it sure is a heck of a lot better than showing up with a false mask on or isolating yourself from what you want because your not different yet. 

When are you going to show up just as you are?

 

Comments

[Mel]

wow.. i just got a tingle in my body.
my chest is pumping - thank you for that

[Karen Fagan]

Glad you like this blog and your very welcome!

[Andrea Owen]

Great blog post and love your site and philosophy! Found you while looking at sites made by blueline. I like the point you make of showing up as we are. This unending quest for perfection we as women try to attain daily is exhausting, unnecessary and yields more energy than results. What a great message to your clients!